Food For Thought Friday #14 – Let’s Talk About Sex.
We are constantly being told that the key to great sex is communication; discussing the things we like and dislike with our partners so we can better understand what turns each other on and what buttons to push.
Are you comfortable discussing sex with your partner? Do you have the confidence to ask for what you like/want?
This is one thing I’m rubbish at. I think I’m getting better, but a lot of it is down to situation. And to be brutally honest none of my previous partners were very adventurous anyway, things just went the way they went. Discussing it wasn’t something I really thought about.
Sir and I do talk about sex, we talk about things we’ve seen online, things we’ve done, things we’re curious about, talk about who’s fit, who’s not – but like I said, for me it’s all down to situation. I find it hard to initiate the conversation, if I’m asked a direct question that’s fine, after sex is a good time too, or if I’ve had a glass of wine. Once the conversation is started I’m usually OK.
I find it much easier to write about it, stories, thoughts and opinions, which is why I like the memes like this. Even though I know he’d love it if I could talk to him more easily, I know he wouldn’t be shocked or offended by anything I said. I’d love to be able to talk about things more easily too. Maybe I’ll get there one day.
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