Staying Positive.

Wicked Wednesday #43


It’s the end of the year… a new year lies before us. For some 2016 has been a terrible year, for others it’s been the best one ever. We can all make a fresh start in 2017… how are you going to do that?

I’m so happy to see the back of 2016, it was a pretty shitty one for the world and a very shitty one for me personally. Things did start to improve towards the end and I’m back to being able to see that my life can be better.

The main goal, at least for the start of the year is the same as it was for the last few weeks of 2016 – being kind to myself (trying), to not stress about things I should be doing. I’m trying to get rid of the should and have to. I’m taking each day as it comes and not doing very much at all. I’m not beating myself up about either. I feel much more relaxed and I’m sleeping better too. I’ve put on about a stone because I’m not worrying about what I eat, that’s going to change in the next couple of weeks though after the kids go back to school and I get back to a routine. I’ve come up with a few little ideas that I know I can manage and, again, I’m not going to stress about things (try).

Another thing I’ve done over the last few months is muted a lot of my Twitter feed, and I don’t visit blogs as much now either. It was far too painful but things are changing slowly and hopefully now I’ve started writing again I’ll be able to go back to reading blogs and Tweets at some point. I have to say I’d be so lost without Twitter which is why I couldn’t leave altogether. Having no kinky support in real life sucks.

I’m continuing with the meds and therapy, I decided I had to keep seeing the same therapist – can’t run away from everything. It’s going OK even if she is a bit patronising at times, and because they think CBT (the Cognitive one not the other one 😀 ) will be good for me she gives me homework – positive thinking stuff – like I haven’t already tried. Anyway, we’ll see how it goes. I have talked to her a bit about how the break-up has affected me, but not about the kink stuff, maybe I should. I don’t know how, how can I explain my needs? How much I miss having someone to submit to? How on some days I feel like I need someone to physically hurt me to drown out the emotional pain? How can therapy help if I can’t talk about the most important part of me?

One of the things I did know and has been proved is that I needed something, or more accurately, someone to stop me obsessing over the other one because I found myself a safe, real life crush! Once I had actually realised it, I felt free, that a weight had lifted. I think I still need someone to actually fuck me before I can really start moving on, but at least I know it’s possible. The initial good feeling lasted until I got the notebook the other day but now I’ve worked through how I feel about it, and him, the good feeling is back.

I’ve had mini Twitter crushes but as they are so far away I don’t get serious about it. I needed someone I could really see and talk to. And he’s safe because I know that there’s not going to be (or very unlikely to be) anything other than chatting and maybe a little bit of flirting. I know nothing’s going to happen because he’s the nurse with the psychiatric team – strictly off limits – but he’s funny and seems to genuinely care. The last appointment I had the psychiatrist barely even looked at me, but K was asking me things – how I was doing, did I need anything – made me feel better. It was only after I thought I should have said that he couldn’t give me what I really needed. I saw him in town a few days later and again he stopped and asked me how I was. He didn’t have to, but he did, and the way he looked at me, I was thinking, no, he couldn’t have, but he did. So let’s just say I have more to think about now.

I’m thinking at my next appointment about asking if they have cuddle therapy, or will I get a spanking if I don’t do my homework? Although it might be a bit difficult to look at him without blushing or grinning.

More Wicked Wednesday here.


8 thoughts on “Staying Positive.

  1. I love the positivity in this and really hope you can hold onto it, for yourself. I also hope you can speak about kink to your therapist, but if not and you feel you want to, maybe you should look for a kink-friendly therapist? I look forward to read more of your words again 🙂

    Happy New Year!

    Rebel xox

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  2. I hope that your therapist is open to you talking about kink. Lots of them are nowadays but if not maybe it is worth looking for someone who is kink friendly.

    As for the nurse, well a bit of flirting with him sounds like fun to me


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  3. If Your Therapist Doesn’t Take You Seriously, Ask For A Referral To One Who Has An Understanding, Not Just Curiosity About Your Personal Life! See If The Nurse Role Plays And Gives You Your Spanking!

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  4. I’m sorry about your year. Sadness and depression are awful and painful things. And they suck up so much of your energy. So I’m glad you’re feeling better.
    It’s better to have a kink-friendly therapist. There are usually things to talk about, and it’s better to talk to someone who has an idea what you’re talking about and isn’t dealing with their own their own feelings about kink. Which may be your current one. Maybe take the plunge, and if you don’t like their reaction, then you get a new one. They’re supposed to be working for you; so you’re the customer and you’re in charge.
    Charge into a better 2017!
    Great post, btw, and well written.

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  5. Were it up to me not only would you receive a spanking for not doing your homework you’d also be spanked if your homework showed inadequate performance. Cuddle therapy would be provided-after your spanking. I hope you have a very positive 2017!

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