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Kink of the Week #13

Kink of the Week November 1-15: Struggling

Woman struggling against bonds

Image courtesy of Understanding Flutterby

There is a large dedicated fan base within pornography that gets off on watching people physically struggle against their bonds, whether that be ties or a another human being holding them down. The videos are really focused on the act of struggling and often features women (yes it seems to be mainly women) bound up on the floor and left to struggle.

The thing is, I kind of get it. Not the watching the videos. I have done that and despite them being oddly mesmerizing I can’t say they got me off, but the act of struggling, well is a different matter altogether.

However this is not about me, but you. So tell me lovely bloggers does struggling turn you on? Just to be clear I don’t mean mental or emotional struggle but the physical act. Do you like the fight of your body against the things that bind you? Does what you are physically struggling against make a difference; rope, chains, cuffs or the force of another human being holding you down? Do you love struggling beneath a partner as they take their pleasure in you?

I would really love to hear from people who get off on the topping aspect of this kink. What is it about watching your partner physically struggle that gets you going? Do you like to restrain someone and then sit back and watch them fight it out? Or maybe it is the act of being the bigger, stronger partner, feeling their smallness beneath you fighting you that is hot for you?

Also what about within the context of other BDSM play. Do you like watching your sub/bottom physically struggle against their restraints as you spank, whip, paddle or crop them. There is of course also the dreaded tickling does that come into this type of play for you?

This is most definitely a kink for me. I like to be tied but there’s not much give in rope, far better to struggle against someone.

Everything about it feeds into my other kinks – about being made to do things, rape fantasies, con non-con, being overpowered.

There’s the knowing that I’ve zero chance of winning, the rush of adrenaline, a little touch of fear, knowing I’m going to ache later, probably have marks – so many things that turn me on about it.

Feeling his muscles moving under his skin, the raw power, his weight pinning me down, hands holding my wrists as I try to get away, both getting out of breath and getting hornier by the second.

Sometimes there would be slaps, face or arse depending on my position, although it’s harder to fight when you’re face down.

Sometimes I’d give in, others I’d keep struggling even while I’m being fucked, beg him not to, whimpering, all the things I knew would make him fuck me harder until we were both spent. Lying there trying to catch our breath, smiling, me calling him a bastard, him laughing.

Fuck, I really miss it.

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Kink of the Week #12

Kink of the Week September 1-15: Hair

Woman with really long hair kink

Image courtesy of Maria Opens Up

We have done pubic hair so I thought maybe we should also talk about the hair on our heads. For future reference we will also do other body hair.

Long hair, short hair, bald heads, curly, straight, wavy, blonde, red, black, brown, dyed, bangs (fringe for the UK’ers) tied up, let loose. I could go on and on with words that describe hair but you get the picture. Our hair is as varied and different as we are and it rarely stays the same throughout our lives. How we have our hair changes with time, mood, fashions, health and sometimes even wealth. Just as how we style our hair can change, so can how we feel about it.

Is hair in any way shape or form a kink for you? Could be your own or your partners? Maybe you have a thing for really long hair, is gender specific or is your love of hair more important than someones genitals? Do you have a kink for your own hair? Perhaps you have a specific style that you do to portray a certain personality or role, such a fierce tight bun to make you look like a school mistress, or girly pigtails when you are feeling ‘little’. We have already done pigtails as a kink of their own but if that is your thing feel free to cover it for this topic.

Do you love having your hair touched? Is there something so sensual about a lover running their fingers through your hair that just does it for you? Or maybe you like things a bit rough. What about hair pulling? Fuck yes or hell no? Of course maybe you are the hair puller? What is it about grabbing a handful of locks and using it to control them that presses your buttons?

When it comes to a man’s hair I prefer short or shaved. It’s all to do with the texture, how it feels against my skin. Like stubble, I love the roughness of it. I don’t know if I’d go as far to call it a kink but I’m more likely to check out a guy if he has a shaved head rather than long hair.

My hair is yet another part of me I don’t like, no surprise there. My natural colour is a dull mousy browny blonde, it’s dead straight, thin and is constantly falling out. When I was younger I kept it at shoulder length, through my teens of course it was greasy, I had dandruff, just yuck. I cut it as short as I was allowed and was slightly happier about it. I’ve had it at different lengths over the years and dyed it now and again as I started getting grey hairs when I was 18. I would have loved to have been a redhead and for my hair to have some body to it. I’m not into styling it, never have been, I hate visiting the hairdresser and I don’t have the money or the inclination to spend fortunes on it. When it’s long I usually just keep it tied back. At least grease and dandruff aren’t a problem now, I have the opposite – dry hair and an irritable scalp, but I’ve finally found products that work, which is something.

I don’t like my hair being touched until it comes to sex. Hair pulling is definitely a kink of mine, that feeling of a hand wrapped in my hair, being controlled, it does it every time. Just don’t stroke it.

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Good Vibrations?

Kink of the Week #11

Kink of the Week July 16-31: Vibrators

Doxy vibrators

Image courtesy of Emmeline Peaches Reviews

As we have already done dildos it seems only right that we should also tackle vibrators here on Kink of the Week. Vibrators have been around for significant part of human history. There is much debate about the first vibrator but many people cite the ‘Tremoussoir’ which was invented in France during 1734 as the first. During Victorian times doctors would a variety of female ailments, most notably female hysteria with a ‘pelvic massage’ for which they often designed vibrating machines to aid them with this task. Today vibrators have come a long way and are now available in numerous styles, shapes, sizes, and vibrations, from the small and buzz to the large and thundery. Whatever your vibrating preference there is a vibrator out there to suit you.

So, what about you and vibrators? Ladies (and female identifying folks) first… Do you love the buzz of a good vibrator? Do you have a favourite or different vibes for different moods, occasions, needs? Is a vibrator something you use on your own or does it really come into its own when it is part of partnered sex? Have you ever used a vibrator on another woman? Do you have a hot sexy fantasy that includes the use of a vibrator? Do you remember your first vibrator? Maybe you have never used one, if so, why not? Or maybe you have used them and discarded them unhappily to the ‘not for me’ category of sex toys?

Now gentlemen (and male identifying folks) let’s hear about your thoughts on vibrators. Have you ever used one on yourself, maybe for anal play, or do you just like the way it feels against your cock and/or balls? What of using a vibrator on a partner, can you remember the first time you did that? Did she just get it out or did she ask you beforehand if you were up for it? Do you like watching a woman using a vibrator on herself? Have you ever bought a vibrator as a gift for a lover? Do you have a hot sexy fantasy that includes the use of a vibrator? If you are a D type then maybe the vibrator lends itself to opportunities for orgasm denial, forced orgasms etc.

I’ve only ever used a bog standard variable speed cock shaped vibe and a bullet. When I’ve used them myself it’s not been great, they’re both a bit buzzy so maybe I’d be better off with something more powerful and rumbly. It’s much better having someone use them on me. Using vibrators is only a part of sex, and not a very important part at that. I’m just as happy without using anything.

I have looked at other vibrators but to be honest they are mostly way too expensive for me. I can’t justify spending €100 or more on something that may just be a waste of time, especially at the moment. I’ve always found masturbating to leave me more frustrated and needy than I was before I started. I can’t come more than once by myself and that’s not enough, I need someone to make me come several times.

I don’t know though maybe I should invest in a Doxy and fix in place until I’ve had enough  😀

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Kink of the Week #10

full bush pubic hair on a woman

Image courtesy of Rebel’s Notes

Kink of the Week June 1-15: Pubic Hair

Back in the 1970’s the big full bush of pubic hair on both men and women really was the norm but times change and fashions come and go and with that so has pubic hair. I think if you really had a huge pubic hair fetish the last 10 – 15 years must have been a terrible time because pubes, especially on women, seemed to have all but vanished. However in the last year or so it seems to be making a bit of a come (growth) back.

So lets talk about pubic hair. What about your own pubes, do you love them or hate them? Are you all about the clean smooth look? Do you shave, wax, or something else? Maybe you are somewhere in the middle, not a full bush but not completely gone either, neatly trimmed, partial shave? Does your partners preference effect how you keep your pubic hair. Is there something about your pubes, or lack of, that you find insanely hot?

How about on others; Do you love to run your fingers through a lovers pubic hair, maybe give it a little twist or pull or maybe you prefer it when things are smooth and bare? Is the presence of pubes a deal breaker when it comes to oral sex or maybe it is the icing on the cake? Have you ever asked a partner to change their pubic hair styling to suit your preferences? Have you ever shaved a partner or been shaved by your partner, seriously hot or not?

Don’t forget that Kink of the Week is not just about personal experiences. Fiction posts are more then welcome, so if you want to write us a story inspired by the prompt then go for it.

I don’t really have much feeling either way about my pubes, I like having them pulled, but that’s about the only plus. I don’t think I’m overly hairy anyway. They can get a little long sometimes but there’s not a huge bush. Maybe if there was I might feel differently. I’m not interested in shaving, waxing or trimming and I’ve never had anyone comment negatively about it. And as it’s unlikely that I’ll be fucking anyone in the foreseeable future it doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks anyway. I wouldn’t groom because someone wanted it either, if they don’t like me as I am then that’s tough and there’s no way anyone is coming near my bits with a razor. To be honest I’m too set in my ways to change now. I have thought occasionally of getting them waxed but I don’t think I want the pain.

As for partners I’ve never been with a guy when he’s been shaved or trimmed, even if they say they have done it in the past. It doesn’t bother me, being that bit older it’s what I’m used to.

I’m not a fan of the bald look anyway, trimmed is OK, but there’s just something about there being no pubic hair that makes me a little uncomfortable, especially on women, and especially if the woman in question looks very young. But then I’m more than slightly fed up of constantly seeing photos of shaved, primped and plucked ‘perfection’. I would much rather see pictures of real people.



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No Touching

Kink Of The Week #9

Kink of the Week May 1-15: Masturbation

Woman laying on bed masturbation

Image courtesy of Holden and Camille

May is here and for those of us in the Northern Hemisphere that means we are well and truly in the throes of spring but for everyone, no matter north or south, May is also Masturbation Month! So it really was obvious what topic should be first up this month.

For large parts of history Masturbation has been demonised with all sorts of evils and ills being attributed to this simple pleasurable act and yet it would seem that as soon as early man invented early tools he used them to craft to penis shaped items that one can only assume were not just works of art to decorate their caves with. Today masturbation is big business, a huge sex toy industry wants you to get your pants off and use their product to get your rocks off and yet despite that there are still many people peddling the idea that masturbation is bad, sinful, harmful to your health and relationships and other scaremongering type rhetoric despite the fact that all the evidence points to the exact opposite. Education about masturbation is still lacking, particularly when it comes to young women who despite the huge amount of sex toys now marketed at them are often hugely ignorant of how their bodies work.

So, lets talk about you and masturbation. Are you a regular wanker? When did you first start masturbating? Was it a wonderful discovery of a shameful secret? Maybe you were bought up in a environment where you were taught that touching yourself was ‘devils play’, how did this effect you and your exploration of your self pleasure?

Do you like to use sex toys when you masturbate? Maybe you have a favourite toy or maybe you prefer the joys of your own hand/fingers and nothing else.

Does masturbation feature in your relationship? Is watching your partner getting off is seriously hot or something that makes you uncomfortable, alternatively how do you feel about being watched?

What do you think about when you masturbate? Is there a favourite, orgasm guaranteed, fantasy that you like to think about when you are reaching between your thighs? Do you like to watch porn, or maybe you prefer the stimulation of the written word?

I could go on and on but I am pretty sure you have got the idea by now, so slip your hands into your pants and share all your masturbatory thoughts with us here.

I was probably in my early teens when I started masturbating, I can’t remember exactly how old nor can I remember how I first discovered the delights of touching myself.

Over the years I’ve masturbated a lot, although I found once I’d made myself come I had to stop. Because I could only reach orgasm through clitoral stimulation it was too sensitive to keep going. I didn’t finger myself, didn’t use toys either. I’d have a go-to stock of fantasies guaranteed to work. Because I’d come across a stash of porn mags I knew it was something other people did, there was no sex ed. about it, I didn’t have friends I could talk to about it and although I didn’t flaunt it I wasn’t ashamed about it.

Over the last few years though I’ve done it less and less, occasionally I’d feel horny and sort it out but I supposed age, lack of a partner and just a general loss of interest in sex meant I just couldn’t be arsed. Then I stopped being able to orgasm, the horrible thought surfaced ‘What if I never have another one?’. Having another relationship I realised that I could still have orgasms, they were just different, and I needed a few to feel satisfied (greedy). Now I don’t even bother masturbating, I still get horny but trying to do anything about it just leaves me irritated and more frustrated so I have to do something else to take my mind off it. It’s annoying but I’m used to it now and I hope it’s not a permanent thing. But if it is I’ll just have put up with it, to be honest I’ve too much other shit going on to be worrying about it.

I hate being watched and I’m not that fussed about watching a partner masturbate, even with porn I don’t find it hot watching someone masturbate. The one thing I do like though is how it feels to have someone masturbate against me. That I do like.

Touch 3

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Boob Job

Kink of The Week #8 and Boobday #34

Three posts today, that may be a bit too many 😀 But I still haven’t done Boobday yet and I can link it in with the KOTW topic too!

Titty Fucking

Titty fucking

Image courtesy of Beck and her Kinks

Titty fucking; porn trope or actual thing? I have heard mixed opinions about this. Some people seems to firmly believe that it is something you see in porn as it appeals to men and is clearly a very visual thing, as a result men seek it out in the bedroom. From others (both male and female) I have heard a genuine and enthusiastic love for titty fucking.

So what about you?

Ladies; do you love to feel and see his cock nestled between your breasts, pushing up towards your face and mouth? Does his pleasure give you pleasure? Is this part of foreplay or a sex act all of its own. If so maybe it is the act of him cumming there, close to your face but nestled firmly in your boobs that you love. Does breast size make a difference? Have you tried it and decided your boobs are just not big enough? Maybe you only do it for him because he likes it and you like giving him what he wants or maybe the whole things is a huge turn off for you and when it comes to titty fucking you just say no.

I read somewhere recently that no matter what size your breasts are with the right position and lubricant titty fucking can still happen. I am not sure I believe that bold statement so it would be lovely to hear from some small breasted women on their thoughts and experiences.

Gentleman; Do you love sliding your dick between a warm pair of boobs or maybe it is something you have watched in porn time and again but found never lived up to expectations in real life? If you like it, why? Have you found female partners to be into it too? Do you find boobs size matters when it comes to titty fucking? Do you look at women’s cleavage and find your mind straying to thoughts of your cock nestled in there. Alternatively maybe it is just not your thing and if so why?

Don’t forget that Kink of the Week is not just about personal experiences. Fiction posts are more then welcome, so if you want to write us a story inspired by the prompt then go for it.

A boob job instead of a blow job or a hand job? Something else I’m not that fond of. I don’t exactly have small boobs but the few times I’ve been involved it just never seems to work. The only thing I find is that having my boobs squeezed together like that hurts, and generally not in a good way. It’s always been the guy who wanted to try it. So no, it’s not really for me, and to be honest I hate come anywhere near my face too, unless it’s in my mouth.


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Kink of the Week April 1-15: Glasses

Do you have a thing for glasses, not the type you drink out of but the type you put on your face to help you see better?

Kinks come in all shapes and sizes from the big and bold, like spanking and bondage to the more subtle and discreet. Spectacles fall into the latter category I think.

Do you find glasses sexy? Maybe the studious librarian look rocks your world and your fantasies are filled with them or maybe it is a look you like to present to people. If so, why? What about men in glasses, is there something about them that just turns you on or have you never thought about it before?

Do you wear glasses? Do you feel sexy in them or do you wish you could do away with them? Maybe your partner wears them and you love how they look with them on, or could it be that moment when they peer over the top of them at you, that just melts your kinky heart? Alternatively maybe you hate your/their glasses, if so why?

Do you or your partner take them off to have sex? Is there something about that moment, the conscious act of removing them for sex, that you find a turn on or maybe you wished they kept them on?

Do you have a sexy memory of someone who wore glasses or a sexy moment that involved glasses? Maybe someone came on your glasses, covering them with cum or lifted them away from your face so they could kiss you better, or see your eyes better, or wipe your tears?

Alternatively why not pen a sexy story that involves glasses.

I don’t find glasses inherently sexy, I wear them for reading and I don’t feel at all sexy in them. I have the free HSE (Irish NHS) version.  I’ve only had to wear them for a couple of years so they’re not something that I ever thought about, and strangely, I’ve never dated anyone who wore glasses, except for reading. Sometimes seeing someone that you haven’t seen in glasses before wearing glasses can be sexy, I’m thinking Tom Hiddleston, but I find him sexy anyway. Some people are lucky enough to look good in glasses, I just don’t think I’m one of them. I look stupid wearing a hat too.

I find someone reading more sexy, whether they wear glasses or not. Intelligence is damn sexy, but for me, glasses do not automatically imply intelligence. I guess glasses just aren’t a kink for me.


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